September blues …

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September can be a difficult time for some children …

Social media is chock full at the moment of the usual ‘back to school’ photos – excited primary school children in their brand new school uniform and a few reluctant teens with embarrassed smiles.  September heralds a new beginning every year – for children, parents and teachers.  But new beginnings can be tricky – sadly, not all children love school … and some find it very stressful.

Tests and assessments bring pressures, as well as having to cope with new teaching styles and personalities and perhaps different expectations and rules.  For some children, change is exciting – but for many others, it’s scary and challenging.

So what can parents do to minimise stress for their children?

  1. Don’t make going back to school into a huge big deal if you know that your child is nervous. We sometimes try to ‘jolly’ children along and create a false sense of excitement.  If it isn’t there, don’t force it! Going back to school is a part of life and approach it in a calm measured way.
  2. In the same way, if you’re feeling anxious about it as a parent, be careful not to pass that anxiety on – children learn by watching the way that you behave.  Be a calming influence – don’t teach them how to be anxious!
  3. Give them the opportunity to talk … but don’t badger them to talk about their feelings if they don’t want to.  Create an atmosphere where they know that you are responsive to their needs and will listen when THEY want to talk.
  4. Look for the positives – what do they enjoy at school? Is there a way they can do more of what they enjoy? Look at after-school clubs and outside activities that cater for their interests. If they find school a tricky place to be sometimes, they need other things that they enjoy.  It’s the same with adults – no one wants to feel that work is the only thing they have in life.  Schoolwork is important – but balance is the key.
  5. Talk to your child’s teachers if they are struggling – teachers can’t do anything about it if they don’t know.
  6. Find activities which help your child to relax.  Yoga is getting more and more popular for teens and younger children and hypno-relaxation is great for kids too as it really taps into their wonderful imaginations.
  7. Get a healthy sense of perspective and encourage them to do the same … education is important but it’s not just about tests and results.  Being a kind person, a good friend and a rounded individual are even more important than what you got in your latest Maths assessment.  Make sure your child knows that.
  8. Don’t make comparisons between your kids – if their older sister always gets great grades, for example, the chances are that they will feel the pressure to compete. Make it clear that you appreciate whatever it is that makes them unique – everyone has different talents and abilities – value them equally.
  9. Lastly, have fun as a family! No one is the perfect parent but find what works for you.

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Good luck!

Judith

www.bluebell-therapy.co.uk

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